Video Samples

Couples Communicating -- English Speaking       (Spanish Speaking)    (Animated)

Communication Danger Sign: Invalidation - Lee & Jessica Invalidation is overtly expressed here when Lee claims that "nothing you're doing is working" as he talks with Jessica about disciplining the kids. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Invalidation

Couple Arguing about Following Rules of the Road David & Jeanna struggle to find a respectful way to talk to one another and discover that the issues go beyond following the rules of the road. This couple expresses a common struggle with how to talk about the Hidden Issues that impact our daily lives. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Hidden Issues, Emotional Safety

Couple Arguing about Laundry Equal contribution toward household chores is another common conflict topic. Jay and Leola not only disagree about who is contributing to the problem, but also dismissing each other's point of view which helps to create more tension. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Problem Solving, Expectations

Couple Arguing about Personal Space It's not uncommon for people to focus more on being heard than on hearing one another, as we see with James and Ladios in this clip discussing her need for more personal space. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Hidden Issues

Couples Communicating -- Spanish Speaking (Back to Top)

Discusión entre Pareja sobre Las Financias En este video Israel y Veronica discutan un Problema corriente en su relación sobre quien tiene control sobre el dinero. Los Conceptos Claves de PREP: Problemas y Acontecimientos, Las Financias, Problemas Ocultos

La Técnica del que Tiene La Palabra La habilidad de hablar con respeto es muy importante para las parejas. Vea a Hilario y Laura practicando La Técnica. En su primera práctica, anota cómo Hilario lidia con la reglas del orador, específicamente hable por sí mismo y deténgase para que el que escucha pueda parafrasear. Los Conceptos Claves de PREP: La Técnica del que Tiene La Palabra, Seguridad Emocional

Señal de Peligro en la Comunicación: La Invalidación Las palabras pueden causar heridas profundas, especialmente entre una pareja. Vea el efecto de La Invalidación cuando Miguel dice "Ya estas fallando como mamá," y Liliana le refuta con sus propias Invalidaciones. Los Conceptos Claves de PREP: Señales de Peligro en la Comunicación, La Invalidación, Seguridad Emocional

Couples Communicating -- Animated (Back to Top)

Communication Danger Sign: Escalation Loren & Dee provide an excellent example of how quickly a conversation can spin beyond control, often ending with a more serious topic that is well beyond where the conversation began— all common indicators of Escalation. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Escalation

The Laundry Soap Couple Animation David & Jill discuss their ongoing issue with laundry soap and show us how upsetting even the simplest of conversations can make us and how quickly the conversation can become toxic, fueled by much bigger Issues. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs; Invalidation; Events, Issues & Hidden Issues model; Spinning Your Wheels (sign of Hidden Issue)

Skills & Strategies (Back to Top)

Issues and Events & Hidden Issues Model: Beneath the Surface (Lecture Doodle) This Lecture Doodle explains PREP's Events, Issues & Hidden Issues model in order to help participants understand the layers of complexity, ultimately recognizing the source of conflict. Key PREP Concepts: Events, Issues & Hidden Issues model

Learning Time Out Relationship expert Dr. Howard J. Markman coaches James and Ladios through the Time Out skill to help them stop the negative momentum in their conversation and come back to one another with more patience. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Time Out, Coaching

Speaker Listener Technique The most dynamic skill in PREP's relationship education approach is the Speaker Listener Technique— a structured model of communication that preserves Emotional Safety around difficult conversations by making it hard to engage in the Danger Signs. This video teaches the technique and shows James & Ladios put the skill into practice for the first time. Key PREP Concepts: Speaker Listener Technique, Paraphrasing

The 4 Step Problem Solving Model PREP introduces the 4-step Problem Solving method that provides the structure necessary to help couples solve a difficult problem. This video explains the model and depicts Jeff and Karen as they put the model into practice (note: the couple is animated, but the audio is real). Key PREP Concepts: Problem Solving, Problem Talk, Speaker Listener Technique

Coaching (Back to Top)

Coaching the Speaker Listener Technique Watch how PREP experts teach and coach a couple through the Speaker Listener Technique. In this video, you will see Dr. Galena Rhoades coach John and Joni through a tough conversation they're having about their son's wedding. Key PREP Concepts: Speaker Listener Technique, Coaching

Learning Time Out Relationship expert Dr. Howard J. Markman coaches James and Ladios through the Time Out skill to help them stop the negative momentum in their conversation and come back to one another with more patience. Key PREP Concepts: Communication Danger Signs, Time Out, Coaching

Experts Speak (Back to Top)

Sliding vs. Deciding Leading researcher Dr. Scott Stanley discusses concerns over the patterns of contemporary relationships that most impact a couple's long-term commitment: Sliding through major transitions before making clear Decisions about what they want for the future. Key PREP Concepts: Decide, don't Slide; Commitment

Understanding Commitment Dr. Scott Stanley, Research Professor and Co-Director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver, presents his definitions and suggestions for building and sustaining a dedicated commitment in a relationship. Key PREP Concepts: Commitment, Dedication Commitment, Constraint Commitment, satisfaction in relationship, alternative monitoring

What Happens in Vegas Dr. Galena Rhoades— one of the lead researchers for the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia study "Before 'I Do' What Do Premarital Experiences Have to Do with Marital Quality Among Today's Young Adults?"— discusses the study's results. Key PREP Concepts: pre-marital relationship experience, single participants, sexual partners, Vegas Fallacy, satisfaction in marriage

Lecture Doodles™

Relationship DUI Lecture Doodle The Relationship DUI Lecture Doodle (Decisions Under the Influence) explains why people so easily get stuck in the wrong relationship because of Sliding rather than Deciding. Key PREP Concepts: Decide, don't Slide; single participants